Caution: This post could cause some hurt, pain and anger.... but it's truthful.

So lately I have been wondering why people don't say more of what they are thinking or feeling. Well, that's not totally true. I understand that people want to be liked, they want to belong, etc. Yet they go around expressing their thoughts and feelings to others instead of the person they have the issue with. I am the first to admit that I am guilty of this, big time. In fact I didn't even want to write this blog for fear of insulting or offending people or losing friendships. Then Nate pointed out to me that a blog should be a place to express yourself. I bite my tongue so often and then rant to others about whatever is bothering me. So here it goes......
        People frustrate, enrage and disgust me! When did people become so selfish??!! Why is it okay to put yourself in front of your children?! People are curious as to why their children behave a certain way and then as I listen to their concerns and their frustrations and more of their "story" it is so clear to me! You have taken away their security, their safety for your own happiness. Well no wonder, why is it not obvious to you?? If I came and took away your home, the bed you've always known, your security just so that I can be happy, wouldn't you act out too? What if you didn't know how to express your anger and frustration? What if you didn't have the vocabulary to do so? Wouldn't you show it through behavior? If you are placed in a stranger's home all day with no say on who you are with, what you do, where you go, etc and then picked up late at night to be quickly fed and ushered to bed, wouldn't you feel like you have no control and therefore act "out of control"?
Why can't people sacrifice toys, cars, houses, etc even their own happiness to be with their children and provide them with the happiness they deserve? I remember when being a parent meant sacrifice, it meant doing whatever necessary to make your child a happy, well rounded individual. Somewhere that changed and those children that had parents like that for some reason decided that they are entitled to unconditional happiness even at the cost of innocent children! When I speak with and watch these people I realize that they are not truly happy. They are gaining nothing from constantly taking for themselves and then comes divorce and total upset of their children's lives, and they are still not happy and cannot seem to figure out why. Sometimes, I just want to grab people and shake them, scream at them all the things that seem to make such sense to me! It saddens me that so many of these kids are going to grow up and repeat the same sick patterns.
         Then you have the parents that for whatever reason, be it social norms, divorce, guilt or whatnot seem to think that you must give your child whatever he/she wants, be their best friend, not set guidelines, rules or discipline. What?! How could that be a good idea? Children need and want guidance and leadership! Without it they have nothing but more chaos and emptiness. Could a business run without it? Then how can one think a child can grow and prosper without it?
What has happened to this world? Where is the love and compassion, the thoughtfulness, sacrifice and everything that separates us from the animals? It makes me sick and I don't know how much longer I can bite my tongue!
This post doesn't do my thoughts and feelings justice but it's start.......